How To Make Eye Contact
Making eye contact can be a great challenge for shy and socially anxious people
However, not making eye contact is perceived as social inadequacy and creates a vicious cycle of self-defeating thinking
Here are some tips to help you overcome this problem:
1)try looking at the bridge of the nose in between the person's eyes
2)You can also look into someone's eyebrows, which gives the illusion of staring into their eyes
3)Keep working at it. It may take you time to feel more comfortable, don't get discouraged
4)As time passes, you'll notice that you've actually beaten a bit of that shyness - Think of it as a motivation to keep on!
5)Take baby steps - build up your confidence in small increments - take the time to notice your progress
6) Another quirky technique that might help is to imagine that you have a second set of eyes right above your first and imagine looking at other people with those - it sounds atrange but it's been known to work for some people
7) Having a smile on your face also helps with concealing your nervousness while in the process of gaining social confidence and learning to make comfortable eye contact. As they say 'fake it till you make it!'
8) As for any other change you want to make in yourself, write down a relevant positive affirmation, either on paper or on your computer (e.g. in your blog) - this becomes a form of self-hypnosis, a sort of 'message in a bottle' which is realized in your life, in time
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